Stop telling hurting people they must have done something wrong.
Jesus shut this down Himself. In John 9:3, when the disciples asked who sinned to cause a man's blindness, Jesus corrected them immediately: "It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be displayed in him."
Somewhere along the way, parts of the church picked up a theology that treats suffering like a scorecard. If you're hurting, you must be hiding something. If life is hard, your faith must be weak. That is not the gospel. That is spiritual abuse dressed in religious language.
Jesus never looked at broken people and asked what they did to deserve it. He looked at them and saw an opportunity for God's glory to show up. Your pain is not proof of punishment. It may be the very place where God's power becomes most visible.
What harmful thing has someone told you about your suffering that you need to let go of today?